Dealing with an angry child after divorce
Divorce is a tiresome process and a bothersome event which disturbs children more than adults. Children have to deal with emotions such as anger and they even feel that their parents are getting divorced because of them.
Dealing with an angry child after divorce-
As parents you would have to support and deal with your child with patience. It would be ideal to shower your child with love and affection. It is very normal for a child to feel angry and frustrated with divorce. A child always desires a happy family and wants his/her parents to live together.
Steps to deal with an angry child after divorce-
- Try and be a good example for your children by controlling your own anger. Children would deal with the situation in the same manner as would their parents. Be supportive towards your child. It is very essential to listen to what your child has to say and how she/feels about your divorce. Make your child understand about divorce and reassure that your divorce is not because of them. Keep in mind that your child would be apprehensive about the future and you must make sure that you are there to support and love your child throughout.
- Try and figure out what causes your child to get angry and what causes outbursts. Once you know what gets your child angry, you can work to avoid the same situations. Ensure you protect your child from disturbing situations and a tensed atmosphere.
- Ensure that you donít use your child as a messenger between you and your ex partner. Donít involve your child in adult conversations and conflicts. No child would like to see their parents arguing and nor would they like to take sides. Let go of minor issues and donít make small issues big.
- When your child talks to you in an open and frank manner donít get disturbed by what your child has to say. When talking to your child, make sure you allow them to speak without you being judgmental.
- Donít be selfish and self centred when it comes to your children. Your child needs you most during divorce. You should always remember that your child does not deserve stress and emotional trauma.
- Donít hesitate to get professional help if required. If you feel that your child talks to an outsider in a freer manner, donít stop yourself from getting the desired help and assistance.
- Maintain discipline for your child; donít give into every demand of your child. Giving into demands would make the child feel what they are doing is perfectly okay.
- Praise your child whenever you see good behaviour, when your child receives praise they would feel more confident about themselves and their actions. The more supportive you are towards your child; he/she would respect you even further. Your child should be rest assured that you would be there for your child at all times.
Lavish your child with love and affection. Your child would soon forget anger once they see love and care.